(Avoid the Biblical definition of “know”.)
At what point do you really consider that you “know” a person?
Is it the point where you know their full name?
Is it the point where you know their hobbies?
Is it the point where you know their aspirations?
Is it the point where you know their favorite drinks?
Is it the point where you know their pet peeves in people?
Is it the point where you know their diet preference?
Is it the point where you know what their facial expressions mean in reaction?
Is it the point where you know how they’re going to react to what you’re going to say?
Is it the point where you know why they are more silent than usual?
Is it the point when you know what comfort food to make when they’re sad?
Is it the point when you know when not to approach them in their anger?
Is it the point when you know when to approach for a hug without saying a word?
It takes a long time to really know a person. If truly knowing a person means never having to ask a question to them again, you probably won’t ever know a person 100% no matter who they are… but you can get damn close.
It shouldn’t be discouragement if you’re still asking questions, as long as you like the answers that have been given so far.
Most people strive to have a relationship with someone where the right move needs no words, just a well-knowledged intuition based off of previous answers.
As a person who reads a lot of quotes, posts, and articles about the beauty of relationships… there is a lot out there that describes moments of ESP-esque reactions. Sometimes I wonder if people who read those things assume it will be instant and like magic – that mental connection. I know better that it’ll take a lot of trust and questions and that I have been willing for years.
I think back to all of the times I had the thought/excuse that I don’t “know” a person well enough to take it further. I think now that… that was nervousness.
Somewhere someone is looking for someone like me/you (if applicable) to be open to enough to know them. Open enough to know them on the unspoken level in most emotional situations.
But hey – I’ve been single for this long… what do I really “know”?